Your past won’t define your future

Cathy — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 16:04:49 +0000

Everyone of us experienced pain in the past. There is no exemptions to that. Things happen whether we like it or not, prepared or not. And there are times that we cannot do anything about it…but to accept. Some will say… it is meant to be. (destiny is the exact word for it)
Perhaps what people failed to understand in life is that, “Our life, is our choice.” There are times in our lives that situations can bring us down, if we allow them. They can crush us and bring us under the enormity of depression and despair that resides in our insecurities, loneliness and any other myriad of negative life situations. What we choose to do with our life because of these situations is really up to us. We can use it as an excuse to shield ourselves from being hurt, from trying, from attaching ourselves to others, from trusting others and so on…In everything that we do… we can put the blame on it. IT IS OUR CHOICE.I could list the number of times that I felt a lot of depressions in life. I experienced before and after the age of 18….from childhood up to now. But it probably wouldn’t do any good and I am well beyond the necessity of revelation therapy. Therefore, no matter what it is that you have in your past that troubles you, it’s up to you how you deal with it. There are people who have been abused become abusive themselves. While others made a conscious efforts to avoid following the paths that were taught to them. Though we cannot expect people to react 100% right, it’s imperative that we look at it from another perspective. In what group would you want to belong? Are you willing to devote time into relearning the correct ways to handle emotion? The key word in both these questions is YOU; because “Your life, is Your choice!” It makes me sigh when my friends excuse their negative actions and beliefs on, “Well, it runs to my family.” It doesn’t matter what kind of family you have, what matters is how you choose to do with that experience. Will you wallow in self pity and contentment because your family did, or will you look at those situations as if they are ways for you to learn and improve? Life’s hard. We can’t change the whole world. When something happens, there’s nothing you can do about it, there’s no way to change it. All you can do is learn and grow. You’ll be amaze to see how your life…how your future can change if you want it to be.

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Your past won’t define your future