Cathonline » Trials and Pains http://cathonline.com Sun, 13 Jun 2010 02:27:35 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 Life is Good http://cathonline.com/life-is-good/ http://cathonline.com/life-is-good/#comments Tue, 06 Oct 2009 04:42:19 +0000 Cathy http://cathonline.com/?p=275 I know most of us right now is in a middle of something. As we are facing our own battle, pain and struggles, sometimes it is hard to see the silver lining. I myself have faced different problems. I’ve been cheated, I’ve been dumped, I’ve been hurt and once lost. I almost felt like giving up. I’ve seen my dreams falling apart right before my eyes, yet there is nothing I can do to save it.

I was never perfect, and I know I will never be. I’ve lacked a lot of things that should have made me a girl of every man’s dream. I’m missing a lot of aspects that should have made ideal. But I learned to embrace my imperfection as a part of me. I have learned that patience is a virtue that everyone needs tolearn. And the fruit is sweet and far better than expected.

I’ve made mistakes more than a hundred times. But instead of soaking myself to regret and hatred, I decided to forgive myself and the others who hurt me.  I’ve learned from every down fall and broken pieces, I’ve retrieve myself from the mud of self pity and anger. Forgiveness and acceptance are two things that is hard to learn, but the only two things that will make us whole again.

As we are facing our battles in different degrees, it is better to remember hat the goal in every fight is to remain standing no matter what. No matter how painful, no matter how fearful the fight may be. Life is good and you must succeed. Look at the people around you, carefully watching your every move. Silently praying that you make it. Look at your friends, your family and all the people you love, they are your blessings and life; the reason to stand up against every fight.

Learn to see life in different perspective. See the beauty that surrounds you. Feel the love and support, see the light and the hope. In the end you will see, life is worth fighting for.

]]> http://cathonline.com/life-is-good/feed/ 1 Another Typhoon To Hit Philippines http://cathonline.com/another-typhoon-to-hit-philippines/ http://cathonline.com/another-typhoon-to-hit-philippines/#comments Fri, 02 Oct 2009 12:13:32 +0000 Cathy http://cathonline.com/?p=268 typhoonI believe Filipino all over the world are alert now. Typhoon Pepeng (Parma), a very strong typhoon with maximum sustained winds of 195 kph near center and gustiness of up to 230 kph is expected to make its landfall tomorrow noon (Saturday) at Aurora.

AS of 4 P.M., here is the list of area with Public Storm Warning Signal:

]]>http://cathonline.com/another-typhoon-to-hit-philippines/feed/0 Philippines was hit by typhoon http://cathonline.com/philippines-was-hit-by-typhoon/ http://cathonline.com/philippines-was-hit-by-typhoon/#comments Wed, 30 Sep 2009 15:44:45 +0000 Cathy http://cathonline.com/?p=256 FLOOD2_CROP-1_N8955_619689aLast Saturday, I was shocked when I watched the news on tv. Manila was hit by typhoon. Most of my relatives are in Manila. Even some Filipino actors and actresses were affected by the typhoon and they stayed on top of their roof. I took my cellphone and started sending sms to my friends and relatives. Until now, some places in Metro Manila are still flooded.

FLOODS_CROP-1_N8954_619739aLast June 2008, we were also hit by strong typhoon and I know how it feels being in that situation. Watching the news and seeing how terrible the situation is, brings back some memories. Donation flooded from different people and groups around the world: foods, clothes, water, school supplies for kids and medicine were distributed. It was a heart touching moment watching some people giving their time and effort to help.

FLOONEW_CROP-1_N896_619740aI hope those help is enough as they pick up all the pieces and try to start again. But as I see the pain and the tears of people who lost their loved ones because of the typhoon, I know it is a very painful beginning. No amount of help can ease the pain of a father who lost his wife and kids during the roof-level flood or the parents whose kids were buried  under the mud because of landslide.

I’ve read a lot of blogs and stories of some fellow bloggers who shared their stories and my heart goes with them. As a mother, I am not sure what I will feel seeing my kids at the roof being slashed with rain and wind with no foods for more than 16 hours.

They were hit by typhoon, but the truth is, its more than a typhoon that hits them. As a brand new day begins, the memories remain.

(Source of pictures: http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/world/asia/article6851191.ece)

]]> http://cathonline.com/philippines-was-hit-by-typhoon/feed/ 1 Loosing someone http://cathonline.com/loosing-someone/ http://cathonline.com/loosing-someone/#comments Sat, 20 Jun 2009 15:50:53 +0000 Cathy http://cathonline.com/?p=233 death flowerThe death of a family member or someone close to us is a very painful loss. The loss for which most of us are least prepared. It happens to everyone. It is part of life and cannot be prevented. Although it is part of life, the loss of a loved one is life’s most stressful event and can cause a major emotional crisis. If it is a sudden death, some people are in shock. When you are shock you don’t register any feelings. You aren’t able to cry much, or any. Denial is often present in the early stages of a loss. You need to allow yourself time to grieve because it is an important aspect in your healing.
We may experience a wide range of emotions, even when the death is expected…denial, pain, disbelief, confusion, shock, sadness, anger, despair and guilt to name a few. These emotions are healthy, normal and appropriate and will help us to express ourselves and our pain. We have to undergo process just before we accept our loss. You must give yourself time to grieve for as long as necessary. Each person grieves in his own way and in his own time. Some people need more time to grieve. Reactions to loss vary from person to person. Reactions depend on your personality, your beliefs, the existence of previous losses, and the social support you receive.
Here are some phases that we undergo during the death of loved ones:
Denial phase
On this stage, you still cannot believe and you still cannot accept it. Your head is yelling that it is not true and it can never be true. This is the hardest phase that we have to undergo. There are times that you will cry uncontrollably while walking and seeing something that reminds you of the departed loved ones or waking in the middle of the night…crying and hoping that everything is just a dream. There are times when we even try to call his/her name, wishing that the door would open and he/she comes in like he/she used to do. It takes time, a very long time just before we can recover from this phase. This may be a battle that is better fought with the help of someone else. We could have a friend by our side to listen and a shoulder to cry on.
Anxiety
Physical symptoms such as disturbed sleep, loss of appetite, restlessness and fatigue are common during the first few months of loss. The fear of losing another loved one is common after a death and may result in excessive worry for the safety and health of others closest to you.
Guilt phase

Regret and Guilt this time. You may regret that you didn’t do as much as you could do for the person or the guilt that it wasn’t you who died. You may feel guilty for things you said in anger or regrets for things that you could have said but you didn’t. You probably did the best you could do at the time. At this time, the problem is you know that you can no longer do and undo those things.

It is most important to accept the fact that there are events we just can’t control. Guilt and regrets are part of life just the same as the birth and death. You should forgive yourself…you should accept that there are things that we cannot do anymore no matter how many tears we shed…you should accept and forgive yourself. Forgiveness is a process. It may take quite a while but you need to help yourself in order for you to heal.
Acceptance phase
Acceptance means that you have reached the final stage. Although the pain is still there… this time you already accepted that death is a part of life and you can no longer do anything about it. You must accept death and loss. The death is an inevitable part of life. It is something we cannot do anything to stop.You will always love that person, but you must realize that you are alive. You must go on with your life
How to overcome grief?
You should find new activities, form new relationships, and become more active and independent. Don’t keep your feelings to yourself. You should talk about your loss with friends and family. You may talk to the people who experience loss of their loved ones too… listen on how they cope to it. Listen to what they will say…even if you don’t want to follow…learn from their words; take courage from it step by step. You must talk about the loss until you accept it. The more you talk, the more you will realize that the loss is real, the easier you will accept it. When someone offers you help, accept it… You should seek the support of people who are sympathetic and supportive. You may need some time alone just after a loss, but as time passes, loneliness may become a larger problem. You must help yourself to recover. You have to learn to live and to function without that person in your everyday life.
You must keep going. You should learn to understand your thoughts, feelings and the grieving process. Give yourself time. You know that no matter how painful it is, how lost you feel, soon it will get better. Life is a big battlefield… and you have to be strong to survive.

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